If Online Dating seems awkward to you, that is because it is awkward and unnatural. I can recall going to interview a gal for a dating book I am writing and she told me; "I am not very good at this online dating stuff." I told her "Don't worry about it, no one is." Victoriahearts One of the worst complaints I see reoccurring with women daters is that they don't like the bluntness of the hook-up crowd. I can see why, but let's discuss this a little further shall we?
A gal writes to me her complaints
about online dating: "Most guys are just looking for a "hook-up"
no romancing, no date night or holding hands. It's sad! Where are the men who
want to talk a walk on the beach, go wine tasting or Catalina for a fun
trip?"
Here is what I told her from the
other side of the fence; Well, I guess I understand both points of view (horny
guy point of view and the gal seeking a long-term relationship). I mean I am a
guy and as I've gotten back into shape my Libido is like 3-times the normal
now, but all this "hook-up" jazz is F-dangerous (pun intended) and
now that I've turned 50 and now single again starting the 2nd half of my life,
the last thing I want is some venereal disease. I just think it is a stupid,
short-term play for guys to do that, but I get it, I mean I understand.
For her in this case, I doubt
she'll have to settle for anything less than she desires, I mean she is looking
great, Eharmony.com 44 and has
everything going for her right? Myself, I like the romance too, it makes life
worth living. Just straight sex without the rest of it, isn't fulfilling more
than that brief couple of hours. Anyway, I think we pretty much agreed on that.
Indeed, after considering her point
of view, I had a thought. I was thinking about what she said, about all the
"guys wanting hookups" and well, you can't blame them for being men.
And one problem is that the Men's Magazines recommend this "Free
Dating" site for guys who want hookups, they also recommend Tender and a
couple of others, so that does bring the one-night-stand crowd. However, there
are probably lots of other guys too.
In her case her pictures show her
as quite the babe, so timid guys are probably not so likely to contact her
right away, and guys who are only out for one-thing are like; "Hell Ya!
Give me a piece of that" as soon as they see her pictures. There is one
picture her on the dating site Lovinga.com review lying down in quite a provocative way and most
guys are thinking, "hmm? she'd make a great girlfriend, I wouldn't get
tired of looking at her, and we could really be good together" and these
are the types of things that go through guy's minds right? I mean that is a
known quantity.
Online Dating is a lot easier when
men and women understand where each side is coming from, so please consider all
this and think on it.
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